Beautiful, inside and out

Parenting has by far been the most rewarding, most insanity inducing experience I could have ever hoped for.  I question my ability daily.  And with the world pulling in one direction and me pulling in the other, I imagine being a child is rather difficult too.  I often forget to think about Emma’s side of things, to take her personality and short life experience into consideration.  I just want to do “it” “right.”  Whatever that means.  I’ve been reminded recently that I need to spend less time reading parenting books and fretting (although I do find many parenting books quite helpful) and more time on my knees praying.  As much control as I think I have or want to have it just isn’t so.  And the only way to impart wisdom and truth to my child is to be soaked in it myself.  Oh, my dear sweet girls.  I hope that they are able to become “healthy” adults despite my shortcomings.

 

Emma’s Technicolor Dream Quilt

I started quilting while pregnant with Emma.  David’s mother Susan helped me get started and has always been a huge support.  Or as David says, she’s my enabler.  Emma has watched me sew countless quilt projects and for a long time has asked when she could learn to quilt and be a part of the fun.  So, a couple weekends ago while visiting David’s parents Susan and I helped Emma complete her first quilt top.  Next time we will quilt it.  I think she did an excellent job.

 

Open House

Emma’s school had “Open House” last week.  I always enjoy seeing all that is going on at her school.  We were able to see all of Emma’s work.  The class was filled with art and writing projects.  In particular was a writing assignment in which each student was asked what they would do if they had a hundred dollars.  I flipped through the book reading each students answer, American Girls topped the list.  Then I got to Emma’s.  She wrote that she would buy an electric toothbrush for her mom.  I had mentioned to David (not Emma) that I was thinking about switching to an electric toothbrush, the dentist says it’s better, blah, blah, blah.  A few days after that Emma asked me how much an electric toothbrush cost, to which I replied, ” I think about a hundred dollars.”  So my precious little girl thought of me, not herself.  I gotta tell you, it was hard to hide my eyes all welled up tears.  Not only were we able to see her doing well academically, but also that she is excelling in becoming a kind and generous person.  What more could a parent ask for?  She makes me so proud.

 

Ninety

Today my dad would’ve been 90 years old. I wish I could be celebrating with him. Our family tradition was to call the birthday boy/girl first thing in the morning and sing “Happy Birthday.” I felt so sad not to get to do that, so I sang to him in my backyard. I felt a sadness at not hearing Emma yell “Happy Birthday!” over and over until he finally heard her. I sure miss him. My own birthday passed a few months ago and I missed hearing him sing to me. Ninety is pretty significant. He saw SO MUCH in his lifetime. WWI ended the year prior to his birth. And in his lifetime there was the creation of television, commercial flight, movies with sound and then color, computers, man walked on the moon etc, etc. In his life he experienced the Great Depression and then great prosperity, though he had a hard time living as though he had enough. He would always “hoard” things. If there were crackers or sugar on at able in a restaurant then it all came home with us, he got better over the years. He also experienced and took part in 3 wars; WWII, he was at Pearl Harbor when it was attacked, the Korean Conflict and Vietnam. Personally, he had so much tragedy as well, mostly brought on by his choices. But by the time I entered his life he seemed to be looking for a fresh start. He loved me deeply. He wanted me to be with him all the time and I wanted to be with him all the time. My first year away at college he wrote me a letter EVERY DAY. EVERY DAY. As a young adult I became aware of my fathers short comings. Short comings that I couldn’t/wouldn’t see before. I started to see what kind of man my dad had been and then decided I would be judge, jury and executioner. My relationship with him was forever changed because I couldn’t see past his faults. I threw away the intimacy I had with him and I regret it. By the time I realized my relationship with him was separate from his life “before” he had started to change, to age and it was like starting over with a different person. I found that in the last few years I had a hard time relating to my dad, he wasn’t the man I remembered. Since his passing all I can think about are my memories of my dad. His stories, our trips and mostly how much I adored him. I thought my dad was a superhero. His life and stories influenced almost every research report I wrote in elementary school through high school.  I’ve been constantly processing his passing.  I miss him.  I am so sad that Megan will never know him.  I feel the loss that Emma’s memories of him will be vague.  I’m so thankful that I’ve reached a point in my maturity to be so thankful for my father.  My life has been blessed because of him and his great love for me.

 

Cheeky

Yesterday morning Emma, Megan and I snuggled together. We do most mornings and it is a wonderful way to start the day. After a little Emma began to play with Megan. She looked at me and said, “You know, we should get a shirt for Megan that says ‘Step away from the cheeks.’”
She could do stand up.

 

Mother’s Day Music

I always love when the kids sing at church. I guess all mother’s do and that’s why they sing on Mother’s Day. Emma is so cute in this, she can’t keep her hips still. Must be a distant relative of Elvis. And isn’t Emma so cute in her hat? (No bias in that statement)

 

Go fly a kite

Back in April we had a few days that were really windy. REALLY WINDY! I thought “Kite Time!” All we had was a dainty little thing for a kite and absolutely no know how. When I was kid my dad and I would fly kites. He’d get it it high into the air and then let me hold it and when I got tired of holding it we’d tie it to our mailbox and see how long it would stay up. One day it was up so long I forgot about it until after dinner. When we finally went to check on it all that was left was the string. The wind and gotten so strong it took my kite with it. I was devastated, because I was 5 and loosing a kite can be devastating. So, my dad got in the car with me and we went on a kite hunt and actually found it two blocks away. My dad was my hero!

You’ll notice in this group of very pathetic kite flying attempts that Emma is in her pajamas. It was just one of those kind of days.

 

Tummy Time

A little peek at what I do all day. Megan has figured out she has a tongue and can’t keep it in her mouth. The video is a little long I didn’t know when to stop.

 

Dear Mr. President

 

The future is so bright

Enjoying the sunshine, delighting in the spring weather and being generally goofy.